Parents often make a lot of mistakes considering the level at which their child is growing. At some point parents blame themselves or even compare their kids to other kids, compare their house to other people’s houses, also compare themselves to other parents. We’ve heard it all and shouldn’t do it but we do it anyway.
Questions like why isn’t my kid reading at your kids level? Your kid is already potty trained while, mine refuses to even try and my kid can’t catch a ball while yours look like a superstar on the field. What am I doing wrong? Whats wrong with my kid? We often ask ourselves this questions however here are the answers;
The kid who can’t read yet may be the best hitter on the team
The best hitter on the team may struggle with math
The kid who struggles with math may be an artistic genius
The kid who struggles with math may be an artistic genius
The artsy kid may be dyslexic
The kid who is dyslexic may spend free time volunteering at an animal shelter
The kid who volunteers may have no real friends at school
The kid who volunteers may have no real friends at school
The kid with no friends at school may be musically talented
The musician may still wear pull-ups to bed at 8 years old.
The kid who still wears pull-ups to bed at 8 years old may be the best-behaved in class.
The best-behaved kid may only eat 3 things and cry hysterically when pushed to try new foods.
The kid who only eats 3 things may be gifted.
The gifted kid may have poor social skills and get teased on the playground.
The kid who gets teased on the playground may have been the first one on the street to ride a bike.
The first kid on the street who rode a bike may suffer from crippling anxiety. And ADHD.
The kid with anxiety and ADHD may be a competitive dancer with a room full of awards.
And the kid with a room full of awards may not be able to read.
And the kid with a room full of awards may not be able to read.
Just like moms we all have our secrets-some of us are insecure, some of us battle with infertility and some of us battle addiction-some of us are drowning in debt-some are fighting through an unhappy marriage and some are faced with abuse or terminally ill. We all have secrets about our kids too and as such we wonder if other people see these secrets and eventually we worry about what other people say about them. Just in case you think people see your kids secret understand the fact that the parent who witnesses your child come last on every lap around the swimming pool, also has a child who has faced a challenge. And that parent has had the same thoughts you are having right now.
It’s imperative that you stop being negative about what you’re doing to help your kids as nothing is wrong with them. Everything will happen in a due season and you don’t have to compare your kids with other kids just because they are doing well in some aspects. You don’t have to exacerbate the whole issue by worrying over certain things that aren’t needed, you’ll only hurt yourself in the process so why not just things fall in place. Every child goes through a different phase and with time they all come out of it so stop bothering yourself and do your job as a mom.
