Coping with a cheating husband is one of life’s most stressful events. Discovering that your husband has cheated, or even entertaining the suspicion that your husband might be cheating, can be a devastating experience. A spouse’s infidelity often brings forth feelings of rejection, betrayal, anger, sadness, and doubt.
Here are 6 ways to cope with a cheating husband.
(1) Get the facts:
If you suspect your spouse is having an affair, your first reaction may be to react with anger or threats. But try not to act impulsively. Before you accuse your partner of infidelity, get the facts. God gave a woman intuition, not just for the mother in her, but also for the wife/spouse. Only you know the signs and that everything that is done in the dark will come to the light eventually.
More importantly, the couple in this situation needs to get proof before doing something rash, like packing up the kids and leaving. As long as there is no harm being done to you physically or verbally, we recommend you waiting before you leave so you can have your evidence. This way, you will know the absolute truth and won’t have to wonder if you made a mistake.
(2) Confront your husband:
Many family Union support groups urge wives to confront their husbands before doing anything drastic. Talk to your hubby and let him know that you think he is cheating. Explain to
him the reasons why you think he is (no matter how small or stupid you think the reasons are) and let him tell his story or explain why he is doing what he is doing. Even if the confrontation confirms your worst fears. This approach gives hope that it can be the beginning of reconciliation.
(3) Get relationship counselling:
Finding out your spouse is cheating on you emotionally or physically (or both) can be extremely overwhelming. Professional help is always recommended. Then your husband can sort out if he wants to move on with or without you. Have a good sit down with him and see what’s really left in your relationship.
(4) Decide where trust ends:
At some point, you need to decide if you can still trust your spouse, whether they are cheating or not. Marriage relationship specialists points out that a lack of trust is simply bad for a marriage. Many ladies not only won’t abide outright infidelity, they wouldn’t stay with a man whom they suspect would like to be having sex with their friends. Ideally, many women would let a man go if he fell in love with another woman. As a woman, can you look at yourself in the mirror every morning and still love yourself if you stayed with a cheating spouse?
(5) Give an ultimatum and be ready to move on:
If your husband continues an affair despite all your efforts to remedy the situation, it’s time for an ultimatum. You can’t mend your relationship with a third party wedged in the middle. Forbid contact with the other woman. You need to make sure there is no contact between the woman and him ever again. If you think they are fooling around, that’s when you pack up and don’t let him explain and you leave while you still have your self-respect. If you have to stay a bit and observe as things develop, let him understand that you wouldn’t have any sexual contact or intimacy with him until you are sure he has stopped sleeping with the other woman. It would be a shame for your cheating husband to give you infection on a platter of gold. Moving on is still unavoidable if you suspect your husband is cheating a second time.
6:Pray without ceasing:
Regardless of your religious background, there is no denying the efficacy of prayers. While you put the following to practice, you must back it up with prayers. This is because prayers change everything after all; a praying wife is a winning wife.