5 Ways To Get Your Husband To Parent Better (Without Nagging)

Are you tired of shouldering the parenting load alone? We understand that as a mom, you’re no stranger to sacrifice. But when it comes to parenting, it’s easy to feel like you’re carrying the world’s weight on your shoulders. But there is a way to parent better.

From diaper changes to discipline, mealtime to bedtime, it’s exhausting. And when your partner doesn’t seem to be pulling their weight, it’s frustrating.

But what if you could change that?

What if you could get your husband to help more with parenting without nagging or complaining?

It’s not impossible. With the right approach, you can get your partner to step up and take on more parenting responsibilities.

Here’s how to parent better.

Communicate Your Needs Clearly

Be specific and ask for help. Instead of saying, “You never help,” say, “I need your help with bath time for the kids tonight. Can you take care of it?” This shows that you value your husband’s contributions and are willing to work together to find a solution.

When communicating, use the ‘I’ statements.

For instance, instead of saying, ‘You always leave me to deal with the kids,’ say, ‘I feel overwhelmed when I’m the only one handling bedtime.

Can we work together to make it more manageable?’ Using the ‘I’ statement can be magical in so many ways. It helps to avoid blame and defensiveness on your part.

Also, try to create a shared to-do list. Write down all the parenting tasks that need to be done and divide them between you.

This can help your husband see what needs to be done and take ownership of his tasks. It works.

Create A Shared Parenting Plan

Family meetings aren’t just for the grandparents to organise on every momentous occasion.

You should also cultivate the culture and schedule regular parenting meetings for your immediate family.

Set aside time weekly or bi-weekly to discuss parenting tasks, challenges, and successes together as a family.

This can help you all stay on the same page, reduce misunderstandings, and adjust as needed, fostering a more balanced parenting partnership.

In the same vein, create a parenting calendar. Write down all the parenting tasks on a shared calendar.

This can help your husband stay organised and on top of his responsibilities, and it can also serve as a visual reminder of the shared parenting plan, helping both of you to stay on track.

Remember to establish clear expectations. Discuss and agree on clear expectations for parenting tasks, such as who will handle bedtime, mealtime, and homework.

Show Appreciation For His Efforts, Whether Little Or Big

Always express gratitude. When your husband helps with tasks, thank him and express your appreciation.

Let him know that you care. Celebrate your husband’s successes as a parent, no matter how small they seem.

This can help build his confidence and motivation to continue helping out.

Avoid criticising him no matter how tempting.

Refrain from criticising or correcting him, even if he doesn’t do things exactly as you would. Instead, focus on the positive side and offer constructive feedback.

Involve Him In Decision-Making For The Family

Men love to be included and lead their families.

Ask for his input when making parenting decisions and consider his opinions, too.

Discuss your parenting philosophies and values with your husband and work together to find common ground and prove them.

Make joint decisions about parenting tasks, such as discipline, education, and extracurricular activities for the family.

Lead By Example And Avoid Martyrdom

Hello, strong mother 😄; share your parenting responsibilities with your husband and avoid taking on too much yourself. Take breaks sometimes and allow your husband to take care of the kids.

This can help him feel more confident and competent as a parent. Yes.

Avoid complaining or expressing frustration when your husband doesn’t help out. Instead, focus on finding proactive solutions and working together as a couple.