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As a wife, initiating sex with your husband need not be cumbersome or rocket science,here are 12 easy ways to initiate sex with your husband:

Show enthusiasm

You don’t have to tell your husband that you want sex except in an extreme condition. Find easy ways to set the right tone rather than having to make sudden moves on your spouse. The first step is actually getting into the right frame of mind as this is the easiest way you can show enthusiastic too.

Don’t over think it

Don’t waste time pondering about how best to initiate sex with your spouse. So, as soon as you get the idea you need get to work immediately. You’ll be happier later and even sleep better.

Don’t be embarrassed

After all he’s your husband and you don’t need to be embarrassed around him. Rather, be free with him and show him you’re not embarrassed around him especially when you have sex. Also, Bear in mind that you’re not the only one who wants sex, he also wants it too.

Dont be shy

Just in case you’re the shy type, it’s important you work on your communication after sex. It helps build more understanding as well as a synergy between you both. Practice how to say things statements like, ‘Good morning love, I enjoyed myself last night, you made me feel great last night.’ It makes it easier to talk about sex even beforehand.

Don’t beat around the bush

Go straight to the point as being subtle won’t solve issues for you on time. You don’t have to be shy to ask if your husband would like to have sex before bed. Remember, it’s your right and you can demand for it whenever you feel like. So hit the nail on the head, its best for everyone.

Do use your hands

Don’t like talking about sex? Well you don’t have to. Your hands can do the magic as well. let your hands wander, come up behind him and wrap your hands around him. You can as well lead him to the bedroom but not with his hands. You can get things started without actually saying a word. Try this method it’s extremely effective.

Be creative

Creativity is essential when talking about initiating sex with your husband. You can start the whole initiation process earlier in the day. You can text him at work “You are in for it tonight” or leave a note in his lunch box “Wanna Skor tonight?” when he sees such signs, he knows something is definitely going on tonight and would also come home with that impression. Don’t hesitate to wear that pretty underwear for him (not your functional underwear) for him.

Do laugh

You don’t have to be so serious just because you’re married, you can joke with your husband, flirt with him, act like teenagers and chuckle. Remember, the more laughter the more fun it is for both of you. So laugh and don’t make it all too serious.

Do be an eye candy

(It’s Okay!) Instead of rocking those flannel pyjamas, why don’t you go for silk ones or put on a matching bra and panty set or go naked underneath a robe and flash him while you’re walking away and see if he follows.

Do follow through

Once you initiate the plan, ensure you follow through the whole process and make sure it happens. It’s quite disappointing promising a man and then not coming through for him.

Avoid distractions that might take your mind off your plans

When he gets in say a word or two in his ears so he knows you’re actually ready for him and just I case you’ll have to forego sex for that day, there’s a need to make an early announcement.

Be active

Finally after getting his attention, you don’t have to let him control everything. Keep up the tempo you’ve been grooming earlier and don’t just lie on your back as you may give him the impression “she’s just doing this for me”. Be the aggressor for at least a bit in order to convince him you’re interested and willing to make it happen. Guide his hands and find a suitable position for yourself because when you’re active it shows you’re cool with what’s going on.

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1 Comment

  • ify ononye
    Posted October 17, 2016 9:20 pm 0Likes

    I am guilty of the first four.

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