Veteran Nollywood actor, Bob-Manuel Udokwu and his wife, Cassandra, an educationist have been married for 16 years. In a recent interview with fabmumng.com, the couple who are blessed with two children-a boy and a girl, shared their amazing love story. Not only did the good-looking actor reveal that he taught his wife how to drive, he also revealed that he does not believe in owning a joint account with his wife
Read their amazing love story below:
Cassandra: Our paths crossed at the University of Lagos. I was an undergraduate while he was studying for a master’s degree. He was a regular caller at my hostel because his classmate, whom I used to refer to as his girlfriend, resided there. However anytime I saw him around, I always greeted him.
Bob-Manuel: It wasn’t a case of storybook love at first sight. I was struck by her height and the fact that she walked like a trained model. I had to ask her if she was one. I was already a star when our paths crossed.
Making the first move
Cassandra: My husband did. We ran into each other on several occasions and then one day, he saw me walking towards the Unilag gate and offered me a lift to Alaba where I resided with my sister. He was on his way to Festac but he didn’t ask me out on that day. We met yet again at the same spot and offered me a ride home. We got talking and became friends.
Cassandra: He proposed on the same day he took me to his brother’s house. He told me that he asked God for certain qualities in a woman and he had found them in me. He then asked me to be the mother of his children and I cried. He was shocked at my reaction but unknown to him, I cried because my parents had just passed on. I asked for some time to think about it and consult with God.
Bob-Manuel: It had to do with my instincts especially as I had realised that it was high time I took our relationship to the next level. It didn’t take time for me to make up my mind. From our small talks, her mannerisms and of course through prayers, I knew in no time that she was the right woman for me.
Most cherished memory
Cassandra: My traditional marriage remains a very significant event in my life. Having lost four members of my family in a day to poisoning, I thought I wasn’t going to get married. Then my husband came, along and we wedded in less than one year. I taught my family would be stigmatised but God had better plans for me. Another memorable moment was when I had my first daughter. I wanted my husband to be by my side when I have her, and God granted my wish. When my husband came inside the theater, our daughter was delivered into his arms.
Bob-Manuel: It was my first experience and it changed my life in a big way.
Bob-Manuel: No we don’t and it is not an issue for us. Moreover, I think the foundation of a marriage matters a lot. My wife and I listen in to some radio programmes and hear people making a mountain out of a molehill over trivial issues like owning a joint account. I, for instance, taught my wife how to drive and she drives like man and also helped her open her bank account. Owning a joint account is not a proof of love. My wife knows when I am down financially because I tell her.
Do you also disclose your acting fees to your wife?
Bob-Manuel: There is no film I shoot or project I am involved in that I don’t tell her how much I’m being paid or offered. That is why I can confidently give her my automated teller machine card and ask her to withdraw a certain amount without nursing any reservations. I am only able to do this because I trust my wife.
Keeping the opposite sex at bay:
Bob-Manuel: I have absolutely no problem with my female fans. Some people ask me how I cope with female fans and I tell them that cope is a wrong word. When you cope with something it means you struggle with a particular thing. I have no problem with my female fans. As an actor, my fan base comprises of female and children. Without my female fans and children, I wont be the star that I am.
Cassandra: Over the years I have handled my husband’s female fans in a civil and mature manner. I always tell him that he is lucky to have female fans.
Distance is no barrier
Bob-Manuel: It’s also about understanding, when you are made for each other there are certain sacrifices you both have to make in your marriage. We talk to each other not less than twice in a day even when I travel abroad. Sometimes a text message can suffice. Whenever I am not recording, when I wake up in the morning, I talk to my family and review the day’s activity. We also catch up during the day and when I am home, I try to make up for not being around by bonding with my family.
Cassandra: I will support him wherever his job takes him to. Distance is not am issue as he calls me more than six times a day and I also pay him regular visits.
Bob-Manuel: I carry myself with dignity, self-respect and professionalism. As my career progressed, I learnt from the experiences of others, which may be unfortunate. I also had to determine not to go down that route. So, I deliberately walk away from situations that will bring out certain unpleasant results.
Taking up romantic roles
Bob-Manuel: In playing such roles I’m very conscious. When I have to play steamy steams discuss it with the director and we work it out in the screenwriter wants it portrayed without being obnoxious. I also remove my wedding band whenever I am about to go to bed because I don’t want to have that mark which comes about as a result of wearing a wedding ring especially when I have to play certain roles. It makes me uncomfortable sometimes when I have to play the role of bachelor and the ring has left an impression on my wedding finger. It kills the picture I am trying to paint as a single person. I also feel uncomfortable having any jewellery on when I am supposed to be resting.