There are several ways to discipline your toddler or preschooler without yelling. Want to know how? See these 6 easy steps
Breathe: Inhale, exhale, breathe and at times repeat “Sometime all it takes is a moment to cool down”. Coping with children can be very challenging especially when you have to keep repeating yourself. Citing an example where you tell your toddler to stop playing around and he or she wouldn’t listen. At some point you’ll get angry and the only thing that comes to mind is spanking. Michelle LaRowe, Author of Mom’s Ultimate Book of lists, says, “Take a time-out. If you are worked up, you are going to work up your child. Before addressing you child, take a deep breath and think through what you are going to say calmly”.
Address the Behavior: Children can be very annoying at times, their behavior just infuriates you and all you can think of at a time like that is spanking them. However, it is important to note that encouraging them is the best way to see them through. Guidance and support is also important in ensuring that they are well directed. Rex Forehand, Ph.D., author of Parenting the Strong-Willed Child: The Third Edition, with Nicholas Long, Ph.D., says that disciplining your children should be the same way. “When we think about teaching our children, we usually go about it in positive ways that is except for behavior” Dr. Forehand says. “For some reason we think that punishment should be our teaching tool.” It doesn’t need to be. When your child hits another child during a playdate, it’s easy to react with yelling, “Stop! Don’t do that!” Instead.
Mean business without been mean: Yelling will only make matters worse, don’t yell. Instead, use a soft I mean business tone when giving behavioral directions. It is said that directions that actually make more impact are the ones that are soft and gentle. The calmer the softer you speak, the more impact you drive on your kids. It’s so important to note because you don’t need to shout to control your kids. All you need to do is talk calm.
Help your child explain feelings: One of the main reasons why toddlers act naughty is because they haven’t found an alternative way to express their feelings. Before you lose it with your child ensure you know what’s going on with his/her behavior before jumping into action. Use phrases like ‘Don’t do that’ and let them know they need to say what the problem is at all point in time rather than take action.
Praise the right behavior: Anytime your kids acts right, ensure that you praise them for doing well. Children are attention seekers and though they might be troublesome about it at times, they still love the attention of their parents. On the other hand, parents tend to give attention to their child either by praising them for doing something good or by punishing them for doing something bad.
Strong bonds make discipline easier: When you have a strong bond with your child, it’s very certain that your child will have greater respect for you. Bonding well with your child takes a lot. According to Parenting the Strong-Willed Child: The Third Edition, the closer you are to your child, the less likely your child is to act up, even though no child is perfect. “A child who has a strong relationship with a parent is more prone to accept the discipline offered by a parent,” Dr. Long says.